Am I A Bad Mother For Leaving My Child At Home With My Parents While I Go Work Overseas?
I´ve been doing this for the past three yrs and i feel more guilty every yr. I keep on telling myself that i´m doing it for her to secure a good future for her and to be able to provide to her needs as best as i can but is it really worth leaving her at home? I miss out on so many things that happen in her life and there are moments that u can´t recapture. We have a very good relationship and she understands that i have to go to work. But will she blame me when she´s big or will she understand that i did it to give her the best i can? Are there any parents out there who are in the same situation as i am? I would like to hear from you.
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My sister is on the same boat. i think it is good to gether involved. if she is able to understand- then do a date with her online, or if an adult is present with her, have them install a webcam so you can talk to her and she sees you. Also, if you are in a different cuntry, send her pics and have her learn abot them- that way she feels involved. What you can also do, is that start atraveling diary for her. You can write a small pargraph each day you miss her and tell her abot your day and when you come back for a visit, you can give it to her and if sheis able to read, then she can sits and read it at bed time or when she misses you- it would be mommy miss me book, you can have her do one for you, she can draw for you and stuff. If there is an adult, they can do the reading for her. Get her involved. At the end, you are doing your work, and if you had the chance to establish a solid future for her in your home country then you would have; and no you are not a bad mother, you are trying yur best, cheer up and keep reminding yourself of that!
You have provided for all of her needs but one.
You took yourself away from her. My opinion is that you put yourself first and her second. Try and find a job that is in the same town where she lives.
It is time to be responsible for the life you brought into this world. Right now your mother is her mother and you are just a well liked relative.
I am not in the same situation as you but i understand how you must feel…
You shouldn’t feel guilty, as the reason you are doing this is for the money to financialy support your child. If you feel like your missing out on her childhood, then maybe consider looking for another job close to where you live but whilst you are still working overseas and if you get a job that will satisfy you, quit the overseas job and start the new one.
I really doubt that she will balme you for leaving her as she will have to work when she’s older and she will understand it all from your point of view.
I hope ths helps. Good luck x
what you are doing is not bad, if you don’t have any alternative, I don’t see, why you shouldn’t do it.
People in Asian countries keep there family behind and go to work in middle east countries,so when they come back, they can give there children better life.
No way are you a bad parent to your child. You are a great mom by putting her first. Some parents should not even have kids. As long as you spend quality time with her when your home and reasure her of your love that’s what it’s all about. Keep up the good work!!!
I guess I would need to know more info. I’m a military spouse and my husband does deploy some so he might be gone for a few months here and there. It goes with the job and, as a family, we deal with it.
If this is sort of your situation where your job is local but you travel overseas a lot then I don’t see the harm.
However, if you’re overseas the whole year and only come home for very short periods of time then I would seriously consider finding different employment. The 1st 5 years are so critical in a child’s development and you’re missing so much that you can ever get back.
So, anyway, I guess it just depends on what your particular situation is.
Hey girl you are NOT and I mean NOT doing a bad job…later on she is gonna wanna buy expensive clothes that mine and your parents couldn’t give..and she is going to be so proud to be wearing the expensive outfits outta her friends….Of course we miss out on alot…but she is safe with her grandparents…its not like you abandoned her or something then that would be wrong..u still go and see her right? So just think of it this way……YOUR DAUGHTER IS GONNA BE VERY PROUD OF HER MOMMY!!
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